#HotTopic:Before Saying I Do

Marriage isn’t a union to go into cause you just found someone you are in love with or can gain something from,marriage is about so many things so before you go for it there are certain things you must know.Before saying I Do you should ask yourself is marriage for me?this question you can answer by understanding the real concept of marriage. Knowledge they say is power,the knowledge of what you are about getting into is important so as to know if indeed it’s made for you. Not every person has a place in an ideal marriage cause not everyone has what it takes. One must know that the ingredients for a successful marriage are love,companionship,patience,faithfulness,loyalty,understanding,responsibility,maturity and financial stability(to say the least),these ingredients are what come together to face and overcome any obstacle.For instance when your partner loses his job or can’t bear a child what must be put in place at this time is understanding,encouragement,patience and support and not DIVORCE,the truth is you gotta be patient and be able to handle these pressures well enough. Your attitude towards your marriage is what makes it work and not just an expectation that it’s always gonna be fine cause we love each other,since marriage itself ain’t a bed of roses but a journey full of its own moments and how u handle these moments is what makes it work,therefore get the knowledge and be prepared for it and of course go for it if you believe and you’re sure it’s for you. Secondly,Before saying I do You must “be sure of whom” you are about to say I Do to,you’re the one going into the marriage therefore, be the one to answer to everyone and not the other way round,don’t go seeking confirmations and answers from your family,pastor,and friends first, you must be the first person to know that he/she is the right one for you,after this personal level of conviction you can now ask others even your spiritual Father for anymore assurance,in other words don’t commit the responsibility of “knowing” if he/she is meant for you or not into another man’s hand,it’s your duty so be up to it!If you are at peace with your decision that is another sure way to know if you both were meant to be together. Do you see yourself storming the weather with him or her?do you see yourself being faithful,do you feel happy thinking about you two being together,sharing intimacy,you don’t feel embarrassed nor disgusted about your partner,if you cant picture it you can’t feature in it. Your certainty can come from how far you can envision yourself with him or her. The Love factor should also be the basis of your relationship and eventually the desire to spend the rest of your lives with each other. Pressure, self interest,coverup,deceit,manipulation,blackmail,lack of options,and competition should not push you to say I Do! Go into it for the right reasons and not because you feel its a dream to fulfil but rather with the certainty that marriage is meant for you. Compatibility is another thing to know before you say I Do Love ain’t always enough you must be awre that you are compatible, do you have the same mindset,orientation, do you share the same objectives?be sure about all these. Compatibility is a very big deal in any relationship and marriage.Make sure you fit each other,if you don’t there is no point going ahead otherwise it’s gonna be a world of perpetual conflict and discomfort. Love cannot survive in an atmosphere of constant disagreement cause at the end you are left drained and when it’s taking too much of your energy you will eventually let it go so if that person is for you not only will you love him/her but he/she will also love you and be compatible(perfect match)with you! Conclusively, none of these factors work alone but must come together to make an entity.