#TKGOLDExtra: What Care Is All about

What is care in a relationship???Ask a misguided fellow “does he take care of you” their reply will be “Yes he does”,now go further to ask “why do you say so” their reply would be “he BUYS me this and that” but if you really look at it, that is so wrong as a reply to a pertinent question like this. According to our observation a lot of abusers actually accompany their abuse with luxurious gifts of all kinds which therefore explains the fact that mere giving does not make your relationship any better or more enjoyable. The act of care do not “just” centre on Gift it does not start and end there. Care actually depicts three things;Close attention, Concern and Responsibility!!! Someone may drop all the gifts in the world at your feet but that does not mean they really and truly care for you. If care should be true it would consist of those three attitudes, if he cares for you he would listen as you pour your heart to him,if he cares for you he would make sure your health and happiness is one of his priority if he cares for you he would make sure your mental, emotional and physical wellbeing isn’t tortured with,in other words care carries responsibility at all time. Gifts isn’t a measure of care but rather it’s an act of kindness/benevolence and has nothing to do with the “actual Care”If your relationship has gifts but lacks the affection or concern behind it take a step and walk away!because the truth is Lack of real care breeds loneliness! Do not ignore this fact.

#HotTopic:The Good guys vs The Bad Guys

     Most losers come up with the misguided punchline “girls like bad boys” Nope, girls don’t like bad boys, girls like the “goodness,and the touch of genius”in the seemingly bad boys, and hate the mediocrity in the seemingly good guys, cause the truth is what is good is absolutely enjoyable! And what is mediocre or lukewarm is spat out of the mouth in this case the heart, cause there’s nothing enthusiastic about it. Now see why the good brother in you is loosing to the bad guys!

Firstly most of these players are not dumb they are intelligent perhaps you on the other hand do nothing but talk in a “simple minded” manner. Now don’t be the type that she tells something and your honest reply would be “OK, hmmm” or in severe cases “K”…wake up establish something from whatever she says or at least act accordingly,say something appropriate. We are not saying force the conversation but please do not be in a haste to end it,cause as far as you are concerned she’s too cheesy and you,you are overly righteous and judgemental for such cheesiness but for your information modesty is the key. Whether you like it or not intelligence is super attractive,exude it.

2.)General Outlook: Most brothers have zilch fashion sense we are not asking you to employ the service of a stylist but at least let your outlook be attractive be worth looking at, be neat,wear your size of clothes and stop walking like someone who is less of a prince,thank goodness Joseph had rope of many colors and at the end of the day he became the king that he is. Dress and look like a Gentleman, like someone who knows what they are doing, have your own style, no one is asking you to put on an extra swag like some internet sensationalist or slay king but just be you in a classy manner! You can’t just be and there’s never a thing looking wow on you. Look can be a serious turn on/off so be careful as a matter of truth,we have observed that those who look unkempt and unattractive all in the name of religion actually are that ugly inwardly. You were created wonderfully and if you look any short of it,we have you to thank for that!

3.)Inflexible and lack of sense of humour: Just stop this already,some of y’all brothers can hardly laugh at anything and in worst cases you are so unyielding, your way is the only way there is,try to listen,try to be flexible,try to laugh when it’s funny don’t keep a stern face just to be seen as different. Don’t consciously put up an act of seriousness, there’s time for everything,time to laugh and time to be serious, don’t confuse the two. Don’t dull her vibe,how can she be beside you and not be able to be herself or get excited all because she’s dating a spiritual leader. Stop being a Pharisee and learn to keep it real for a second. Get off your high horse and be down to earth!

4.)It’s not a Crime to be Romantic: One of the issues of some brothers is that they ain’t romantic, the word is sinful as far as they are concerned, being romantic is not a sin,everybody loves fun at least if you ain’t a sad person or a sadist you should love fun, and happiness being romantic is fun, it puts a considerable long smile on her face,that’s the truth, trust us on this! If you can’t do anything nice for her,you can’t say anything nice to her, you can’t compliment her dress,her hair or anything you like about her, because your whole ambition is never to consider earthly things,you have failed woefully already and that’s exactly how you loose her cause very soon her attention will be shifted to the one who knows how to give to Caesar what belongs to Caesar and to God what belongs to God. Pretences and hypocrisy won’t let you win in the game of love.

5)Do You Know How To Treat A Lady: Yes Mark Zukerberg might not be a fashion icon like we pointed earlier on but he sure knows how to treat a lady,he wouldn’t compare her to any other woman,cause we ain’t sure every brother can genuinely make the statement “my wife is the most important person in my life” that’s not being romantic or being cheesy it’s simply being real and intelligent. Every man who knows what marriage is all about knows the woman in his life is his number one,he knows her worth. A real man knows how to treat a lady any lady as a matter of fact,he knows the worth of a woman and respects it. Honour and respect the place of the women in your life. Also learn to give to your woman, you don’t need to have it all,just give no matter how little cause a real woman will appreciate it. Don’t try to evade responsibility by trying to strip her off every accessory she’s got,cause for some it’s the easy way out since they are stingy and perhaps unable to provide,then you find out they are liars and cheat at the end of it all. You don’t expect your girl to roam around you when an admirer knows how to treat her. You better learn how to give her the care, attention and understanding she deserves! Give her,her space in your life!
     He who has ears let him hear what LLWTKG is saying!

#CupidSongOfTheWeek: Aduke by TJan

Not a song more romantic by flexible artiste Tjan he titled this one Aduke. Tjan evidently gave this song his very best which we can attest to by his silvery voice as well as the  dignified lyrics that evokes a sincere and humbling desire to make his love interest his dear wife. This song wouldn’t have been complete without the genius’s touch of great producer Cobham Asuquo, he gave it a solemn beat, the one that can drop you into the alluring mood of a perfect love celebration making the song even more irresistible for lovers. For those who are helplessly romantic you can employ the service of this song in your background during proposal, romantic dates, traditional wedding and wedding receptions. This song is exclusively for the love birds!

#QuoteOfTheDay

**”He loves me but abuses me”,we talking love,you talking nonsense!…that ain’t love sis,abuse and love share nothing in common!-TKGOLD

**Intuition is a necessary tool in a relationship,it guides you! Don’t ignore your intuition-TKGOLD

#CoupleOfTheWeek: Innocent Idibia & Annie Macaulay

    As for Innocent Idibia and Annie Macaulay,they make what we call Legendary love. Their love story started after Annie Macaulay finished her secondary school and met Tuface at the entrance of a recording studio it was attraction at first sight. Though it started well the couple had to prove their love for each other. While with Annie, Tuface went ahead to make two baby mamas for himself this brought the relationship to an end but suddenly Tuface proposed out of the blues cause the couple were not seeing each other at the time only being good parents to their kid. That is why when things ain’t working in your relationship rather than stick there and suffocate each other give each other some necessary SPACE. Annie gave Innocent some space to figure out what it is he wanted and during this time he knew Annie was just the only one for him. Annie deserves a standing ovation for being a smart woman she must have been fighting for that relationship to work but when she saw no changes she left and waited for Tuface to fight for the relationship and he did and together they are striving, maintaining the  legendary love that they share. Tuface took the time to dedicate a song  to his wife titled Rainbow of which he featured their wedding in the musical video. Their love story continues….All thanks to Annie for not giving up on tuface despite all the negativity she must have heard and seen herself…Not to forget, Annie deserves an award for being able to co-parent the legendary star singer’s child from his previous relationship! By that we can see she’s not just there to earn the tittle “Mrs”.

#JokeOfACouple: Chris Brown & Rihanna

Wild,wild,wild love!…This relationship was nothing short of wild love, it was a bittersweet experience for both parties involved due to the cause of events which took place. They were romantically linked when Riri was 17 and Chris Breezy 16 but to every individual who knows this two lovers what could be a landmark in their relationship was the incessant break up, make up and the infamous physical assault Chris Brown melted on Rihanna. The assault may have been on Riri but this arguably left a blow on Chris career as he was blacklisted since he lacked self control. Despite all and sundry Riri still wished Chris Breezy well even praying for him on twitter about his Court hearing(True love is indeed real). This is a “love story” that shows that sometimes we are best as friends and not as lovers, we gotta be able to discern when it comes to issues of the heart cause if you misinterpret feelings you’ll only end up been hurt too badly. Accept your fate if you are friend zoned cause your true love wouldn’t friend zone you,it’s not an ill luck, somethings are not just meant to be and secondly, First love isn’t true love;Riri calls Chris her first love but that doesn’t mean Chris is the man for her. And you know what?just because somebody calls it off and calls it on again does not mean they can’t do without you,as a matter of fact that relationship is only struggling and somebody is suffering if not the two of you!

#ToWhomItMayConcern

Do not assume that your partner should know what you want or need,if you lacking anything you expect from your union, be open and transparent enough to let your partner know. If any relationship or marriage must work,it’s by complete honesty and communication!… this is especially to men,learn to be vocal about your needs instead of being withdrawn or living in denial cause two cannot walk together unless they agree!

#DoNotBeDeceived

#DontBeDeceived:The “hustle”for sex is real don’t be deceived, introducing you to his close pals and family members isn’t a guarantee that he takes you seriously,players go to any length to prove their false feelings….When you are under the right roof your mind and body is secured, don’t give in into any manipulation or cheap blackmail, don’t be sicken and cheapen by sweet words!Everything is beautiful at the right time!

#Yes/No

Question: Are you in a relationship?
Reply: It’s complicated!
     Which brings us to ask is “complicated” a relationship status?? Or it’s just a case of once you are in,you are in and once you are out you are out!