We know it isn’t the sweetest experience to date a man whom we might term as financially disable, it may be frustrating depending on how much of a woman you see yourself.
But then If that’s the case, pls kindly UNDERSTAND that the same way you are broke is the same way he is broke, the same way it is not a crime cause you don’t have is the same way it isn’t a crime that he doesn’t have, the same way it may be annoying that you are financially dependent is the same way it is annoying that he doesn’t have enough to spare you so much. You also have to understand that the truth still remains that your help does not come from any man but God and after that should be your parents. He didn’t put himself in that situation the same way your parents may not have put their selves in the situation to not be able to fend for your needs.
Yes it is in fact a big deal just like every other relationship struggle but the truth is as long as he cares with the little he has he isn’t committing any crime, neither as he fallen short of anything by not being able to provide for you as your boyfriend or fiance, cause he isn’t your husband still.
All you gotta do as a couple is SET YOUR PRIORITIES RIGHT if you WISH to continue with him. If you are dealing with financial frustration it’s foolishness to get married at that time while it’s wisdom to be BOTH committed in ENSURING a better tomorrow otherwise the value of your marriage might fall apart in the long run.
Of course we have women who are contemplating between dumping a man because he isn’t financially capable of taking care of their needs(as much as you are feeling so entitled right now but that’s your reality cause sometimes we just can’t help those feelings) here is the TRUTH:
Once you don’t feel like hopefully dealing with the financial struggles anymore, nor to continue with the relationship for that reason, or maybe you contemplating cheating on him by double dating, KINDLY LEAVE cause it’s a GREAT SIGN that YOU ARE NOT WHAT HE NEEDS AND HE IS NOT WHAT YOU NEED EITHER…Holding onto a relationship shouldn’t be born out of pity, neither is it about staying because of what people will say or think, otherwise DISDAIN and FRUSTRATION will eventually set in. How you feel about your relationship is strictly a personal affair. Leaving is better than staying and cheating! You owe yourself the responsibility of decision making hence whatever decision you make today will determine what outcome you have tomorrow. It is all up to us!
And Man, because you got dumped due to your financial struggles shouldn’t imply that you become suicidal or become a chauvinist, let that experience always be an inspiration to do better and make better of your life, it isn’t time to give up nor the time to go around abusing women it is time to be FOCUSED. No pity party, no self pity, pick yourself up and be determined to succeed legally. If you feel like she owes you the responsibility of putting up with your struggles right now you are also feeling entitled, because the truth is she isn’t your wife until then leave her with the CHOICE to either stay or leave. Believe you me a true friend doesn’t have to be compelled to be there in our trials, they will be there which is why you shouldn’t force it.
Such is life. It’s on us to make the best of whatever life throws for us. There is greatness in each and everyone of us, you ain’t an exemption.