In a relationship, there is the good, and the not so good!
However, when the bad seems to surpass the good, it simply means, that relationship ain’t good enough for you two!
Out of the worst scenarios you may come by is the tongue lashing!
There’s no other name to call it than tag it an abuse!
When a partner perpetually uses their tongue as a weapon of combat in an argument or misunderstanding when they are supposed to help you see the light, then, kindly stay away cause the damage they cause are mostly difficult to revoke. And the truth is they really don’t love you nor care!
Worst of the many effects is, mortifying your self esteem as the abuse is coming from someone you may trust and think should know you to the core. Sometimes, it’s not like they ain’t seeing your worth or anything but the truth is they can’t stand you nor their self therefore, they can’t appreciate your existence!
In a relationship where appreciation is dead, verbal abuse would come alive. In a relationship where tolerance is the bond, verbal abuse would always play out well. In a relationship where forgiveness is a luxury to come by, verbal abuse wouldn’t be so far away! In a relationship where character has depreciated, verbal abuse will surely appreciate!
Correction is the key. Communication is the key as well! And of course understanding! When you can see through the eyes of understanding you’ll be less judgemental. When you make good use of communication you will be less degrading and more open minded.
Always keep this in mind; A soft answer turns away wrath! It births improvement and acceptance of correction! It allows for true communication.
Always respond to your partner in a manner you would love them to respond to you or your mistakes, yes you can do it! Instead of saying “you are stupid” rather opt for “you should be more careful next time” i. e use correction as a tool for advancement or growth. It is more productive and effective!
Check your relationship, are you two tolerating each other instead of loving yourselves? are you keeping records of wrong doing? Are you less appreciative of each another? Is any of you dealing with low self esteem and insecurity? Is your character flawed? These are the major causes of verbal abuse! So if they exist abuse will play out!
Stay away from toxic environment, you are what resides in your heart, once you allow their words into your heart, there is no happy life anymore. So don’t allow anyone tell you, that “you are nothing, you can’t be a great person, you are ugly, you’ll never do better!” And the likes.
I don’t know how people come to manage and put up with this behavior because they think they can’t breathe without their abuser! Of course, very soon you won’t breathe anymore with such toxicity, you’ll stop living instead, maybe not biologically!
Again, If you ever put up with this your self esteem is dead!
Don’t give anyone such power to determine how much value you place on yourself.
You should know what you want now and what you don’t!